GregW wrote:It's shameful. Unfortunately children tend to emulate champions. Sad.
That's true indeed.
When was the last time one saw anyone gush about the quiet display of manners in an athlete? No, those people are "boring" in most cultures. Check out simple table manners among kids lately? If they can't do that, if that's not what Mom and Dad are insisting on, then why expect any concept of etiquette elsewhere? My previous statement had a certain amount of hyperbole ... but not by much. "The System" tends to reward ... financially ... bad behavior. Why? Because it puts eyes on the event. Paying eyes.
So while Sheldon and Dave can notice and comment, any real discouragement is unlikely.
What can we do in our dojo?
1. Behave better ourselves. For example, at the shiai are we shouting angrily from the chair trying to influence and control the game for the player? Or are we there making sure our athlete is ready, then just taking notes for later review?
2. Do we have standards of etiquette in the dojo? Not because we want to show how Japanesey we are, not to "discipline" kids with thousands of punitive tasks to "toughen them up," but simply to establish the concept of intentionally following rules and habits in a group but of our own volition.
3. Do we come down hard on jerks and bullies, no matter how "good" they are? I mean really remove them from sight. "Go home kid. Tell your parents you are welcome back when you can behave in a civil manner?" Most kids with behavior problems can handle physical abuse ... push ups, being thrown by sensei, etc ... most of the same kids hate isolation and fear abandonment by the group.
Finally, do we really teach the judo of Jigoro Kano, have we even bothered to learn it? Or are we so enamored of the children's game of Olympic jacket wrestling that we make winning the only real goal?